But humor (supplemented with some of these) really is the best medicine in this case, and you should make jokes, especially slightly self-deprecating, “wow, I was such a fool back then,” kind of jokes, that demonstrate growth, maturity, and self-awareness.

Share Some Songs

While going through my divorce last year, I may or may not have made a divorce playlist (I did). I didn’t share the whole thing on social media—too obvious—but I did share a few songs from it every now and again with real subtle captions like “song of the day.” You are welcome to borrow any and all of my songs if you wish, but selecting your own can be very cathartic.

If, however, you are in dire need of recommendations, let me suggest “Quick!” by The Magnetic Fields, and both “What Makes You Think You’re the One” and “Silver Springs” by Fleetwood Mac, because no one has ever broken up more spectacularly than Buckingham and Nicks.

Of course, you’ll eventually arrive at a place where you don’t care if your ex is snooping on your Insta, or reading your tweets, or clicking through old Facebook photos at 2 am, and you won’t be doing those things either. And that, my friend, is when you’ll have officially won.